It is Difficult to be Indifferent at Work

Paranoid (Suspicious – Fearful) – Trusting – Faith – Hope - Confident

Passive Aggressive (Negative - Uncertain) – Assertive – Positive - Optimistic - Clear

Petty (Narrow – Mean) – Generous – Important – Expansive

Personally (Subjectively) – Objectively – Accurately – Impartially - Fairly

I’m trying to avoid the four ‘P’s and their cousins, and I am trying to come up with an alternative.

I don’t like being around someone who is suspicious of my actions.  If they fear my intentions, I generally lose their support.  If they don’t feel they can trust me they will be negative and uncertain and what they say will be narrow minded and may even be mean.  When I make a general statement, they may take it personally and then they can’t fairly judge my narrative.

So I want to be more confident and trusting, have faith in others and hope for the best.  If I am more positive and clearly describe my view in optimistic terms, my statements my seem less threatening and be more easily supported.  I’ll try to be more generous and include others in my efforts to seek out what is best for everyone. 

If I objectively and accurately state my views maybe I’ll be treated fairly and receive an impartial resolution.

Irons in the Fire

By using a linear set of actions, you can make clear everything you are doing, will do, and have ever done.

If you fill out a spreadsheet with the list of your goals and accomplishments down the left hand side, and then to the right of each make a list of all the steps necessary to accomplish each goal, you can order the steps in a timeline of infinite perfection.

Of course, this is only possible for you to do with past events where you can delineate the steps as they happen (and of course, you have to put in the recording of the steps as steps).  If you wish to fill out the spreadsheet before it happens you will fail, because no one can perfectly predict every step but those steps do or at least will exist once your goal is accomplished.

Therefore, your task is; 1 to pick the most pertinent task and then; 2 to pick the next step for that task and then; 3 to carry out that task while; 4 you keep in mind other pressing tasks; and 5 their necessary steps and the proper order of those steps so that; 6 you accomplish your overlapping tasks in a more or less efficient manner.

_What I See_

My problem is not that I see too little

It is that I see too much

And think that what I see

Is meaningful.

If I am driving and the posted speed is 35 MPH and I am following someone who is doing 33 MPH I consider their behavior to be inappropriate.

If I am driving and do not know the posted speed limit but believe that, my understanding of the traffic rules that govern speed limits on this road are good enough to guess that the speed limit is most likely 55 MPH and I am following someone going 45 MPH I assume I would consider their slow driving as inappropriate.

In both cases, I would most likely assume that the person in front of me should not be behind the wheel if they cannot drive, what I consider to be, the appropriate speed limit.

If I did not know and did not assume I knew the ‘proper’ speed limit, I would just drive.